A friend of mine wanted to talk to a girl at the dog park…
He walked his dog there all the time, and whenever he did, he’d see her…
She’d always give him this cute smile, play with her hair nervously, or tell him his dog was adorable, then she’d walk on..
He wanted to talk to her EVERY time…
But never once had the nerve…
He’d brainwashed himself into thinking something easy was actually really “difficult”…
So he asked me how he could do it.
I told him a few things he could say…
He could have said something cheekily like “You again?”
Or even laughed and playfully said “What about me?” when she told him his dog was adorable…
Or he could have just said “Wait a sec” and talked to her about ANYTHING…
But what I quickly realized after giving him these lines was that his big fear was that he didn’t actually know what to do AFTER he broke the ice…
How could he keep it going? How could he get her number? How to make sure she remembered him when he texted her later?
Now, here’s the thing…
Meeting women at the park, the store, or even at work isn’t impossible…
In fact, is actually a lot easier than you think, however, it requires having three specific things
1. a clear beginning to the conversation
2. a clear middle
3. a clear way to end the conversation
If not, your mind will resist starting the conversation because our mind resists doing things where there is a high level of uncertainty…