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Your wife hates sex. Now what?(by David Shade)

Nice Guy behavior, which is rampant today, destroys lives and destroys marriages.

As far as I’m concerned, it’s a public health menace.

Today I’m going to share a letter that Michael wrote to me for some advice on how to get his wife interested in sex again.

As you’ll see, I immediately saw some far deeper problems with Michael’s situation and took him to task with some very tough love.

Here’s Michael:

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“My wife is a looker – former Miss Mississippi.

I’m 49; she’s 40. Been married for 15 years. She still has no wrinkles and is in great shape. She says she is burnt out on sex. It sure isn’t from lack of it; I could go ten times a day if she would.

She has never enjoyed me eating her pussy or anything to do with her tits.

She had breast implants when she was younger and claims she can’t even stand a kiss on them because it’s ‘too much.’ She cringes when I get the idea of kissing her in the lower regions.

She draws up and claims that any licking, etc. is to ‘yucky’ or ‘nasty.’ I can’t even French kiss her. She can’t stand kissing.

She refuses to watch porn, doesn’t drink, won’t try any drugs, but otherwise is a great person.

She says I have worn her out with too much sex. I’m not sure how to interpret this.

“Give me some time without wanting to have sex,” is something I have heard a lot.

I need some help here. This is a tough one.

Michael”

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Oh wow.

Where to begin?

Michael…

She sounds very concerned about her looks and wouldn’t dare smear her lipstick.

Frankly, she sounds like a dud.

Why did you marry her? Because she was so hot?

I certainly made that mistake once. She was hot as hell. After eight years of marriage and two kids, she left me for another man. It wasn’t anything I did wrong.

My only fault was that I chose wrong.

At your ages, she should be getting hornier, and you less horny.

I have bad news for you, Michael. It is going to be hard for you to take this:

Her decrease in interest in sex is the FIRST sign.

She is not getting what she needs in the relationship.

Since she is not being fulfilled in the relationship, she has lost her passion for you.

The lack of sex is only a symptom, not the problem. She may not know why her interest in sex has diminished or why she has lost passion for you.

Finding creative ways of being more sexual is not going to help. It is only going to be more irritating to her.

Every woman in such a situation has different reasons for why the sex has gone dry. She will make various excuses for not having sex. She will invent ways not to have sex.

She probably won’t talk, and she probably doesn’t know what’s wrong.

You are probably walking on eggshells, out of fear of loss.

I know, I was in that situation. But that just prolongs the agony.

Not confronting the problem is even more of a turnoff.

“He’s a pushover, so I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing, so I don’t have to deal with the security issue.”

She loses even more respect for you.

She may already be out there sleeping with another man.

Hell, she could be contemplating leaving.

I have dated women like this following their divorce.

All of a sudden, their sexuality is brought to life, and they become wild screaming crazed animals that can’t get enough.

What you need is to get ahold of yourself and stop being needy.

You need to learn how to be a dominant man, re-seduce your wife, and make her WANT YOU again.

I suggest you take a look at Bring Out Her Inner Slut – time to go hardcore.

Go big or go home. Your marriage is circling the drain. Put your big boy pants on and do something drastic.

Michael, she has to start following your lead, or it’s all over.

Click here to … Bring Out Her Inner Slut

The major value of goals…

Let’s answer a question from one of the readers in today’s newsletter.

** Question From a Reader **

“…I’m very frustrated that I’m not making progress and reaching my goal of being a great seducer. It seems so far away and all the stories I hear about other guys having success just depresses me more and convinces me that I’m farther away than ever.

I can’t think of anything else. I thought obsessing over it would bring it to me.

What’s going on?”

– Jason

>> My Answer:

First of all, if your goal is to be a “seducer”, you’ve signed up for the wrong newsletter my man.

The only person you’ll be seducing is yourself.

Having said that, I’ll continue with some general advice on goals because…

From what you’ve sent me, that will help you the most.

I like goals and we all have them,

They are a good thing.

However, being obsessed with them over everything else in your life,

Or…

Having the wrong goals for the wrong reasons…

Won’t make you any happier once you reach them.

In fact, once you reach them you might be miserable.

And, you’re missing the entire point.

Agonizing about not reaching goals and forgetting what you have learned on the journey is…

A major waste!

The major value of reaching a goal is not to acquire it,

But it’s the person you become WHILE you are working to acquire it.

If you reach a goal, but don’t like who you’ve become, there’s no point… is there?

There’s a famous psychologist, Abraham Maslow, who created “The hierarchy of human needs”…

And do you know what he put on the top?

Self-actualization.

That’s a fancy way of saying, who you become while you’re working to fill the other needs.

And according to him, that’s THE most important thing.

When you realize that the game is not just about the goal…

But who you become during the journey,

Then some your goals may change.

Running the race and running well, that is the real prize.

Winning is not so important.

It’s how you play the game, not whether you win or lose.

Liking who you become is also what you are playing toward.

You want to become a better version of yourself.

Consider the goal of being a great “seducer” and tricking girls into sleeping with you.

When you get there and accomplish that, are you going to like who you have become?

Honestly.

Are you seeing it now?

Consider the goal of giving good energy, being inspiring and the type of guy who women are naturally attracted to…

A guy who practices effortless effort and walks around as if he doesn’t have a care in the world…

And when you get there and you accomplish that, are you going to like who you’ve become?

Of course you will. 🙂

So… when you set your goals, one of the most important questions you will need to start asking is,

“When I get there and accomplish that, am I going to like who I’ve become?”

Remember… who you become is more important than what you win.

Some people have their self-awareness dial set to, “numb”.

The reason is because they have pursued goals that weren’t worthwhile…

And even though they’ve been successful,

It’s turned them into someone who even “they” don’t want to know!

So change your goals,

Change your reasons,

Change your life.

Hope this helps.

Ok, so you might be reading this right now, and you’re probably wondering…

“What’s The Best Way For Me to REALLY Learn This Stuff?”

Hey, I’m glad you asked.

Success with women really comes down to learning a new way to think about women, then combining it with the actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION.

If you’re ready for SUPER success with women, then I highly recommend that you go download online ebook “Attract Hotter Women.“

It’s JAM PACKED with ideas that you can learn and use starting TONIGHT. You can go download it right now and be reading it within just a few minutes.

Download it here:

http://www.attracthotterwomen.com/letter

…to get it.

This material isn’t taught anywhere else.

It’s the best investment you can make in your dating life, period… end of story.

Bottom line: Go get your copy.

And I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

ttys

P.S. If you want more “come backs” to beat all of her tests, be sure to study the book:
Click here to learn more…
No More Shit Tests

Challenges to your dominance

Women will challenge your dominance.

This has tripped up many a man, put him on the backfoot and undermined his goals.

So how to handle it?

I’ll get to that but first, let me re-emphasize that you must be the leader. You have a goal. You have a plan to get there.

You do not share your plan. Your plan is not questioned. You simply provide direction that is to be followed.

That is what dominance looks like in practice.

You never allow your dominance to be challenged. “But she DOES challenge my dominance,” you say…

Here’s how you handle it:

You never ACKNOWLEDGE her attempts to challenge your dominance.

You never RESIST her challenges to your dominance, because that would acknowledge her challenges to your dominance, and that would allow your dominance to be challenged.

Instead, you simply LEAD.

There are two types of women who will challenge your dominance: 1) women who don’t want you to be dominant, and 2) women who want you to be dominant but are just making sure you are dominant.

Women will challenge your dominance in many ways, including: 1) telling you what to do, 2) asking you why you’re doing what you’re doing, and 3) refusing to comply to your requests.

You must receive absolute 100% compliance to your dominance. Anything less than complete 100% compliance is NON-compliance. It’s either there, or it’s not. If you continue without compliance, she will never become empowered as a sexual creature. Period.

If she refuses to comply with your requests, she has started a “compliance battle.” If she wins the compliance battle, she wins the “dominance struggle,” and that makes her the dominant, and that makes her the leader.

But women don’t want to be the leader. So she didn’t “win” after all; she just remained in her old dis-empowered programming.

Dominance struggles are not something you “win over her.” Dominance struggles are simply something that you are responsible for managing. You just keep right on being the leader. Either she follows your lead, or both parties lose.

PS – This seems a little intimidating, doesn’t it? It’s OK you can admit it. And I’ve got you covered.

“Be The Fucking Man,” gives you examples and case studies about how to deal with and win these compliance struggles.

Let me show you exactly how it’s done here.
Be The Fucking Man!

If it’s a relationship you want… do NOT push her hard to have sex!

If you want a relationship with a woman, do NOT push her hard to have sex. If you push hard for sex, she will think you are only in it for that, and it will reduce any respect she has for you.

And it makes you just like all the other guys. Be different.

A central part of your allure is that you are different.

Remember the “one-night stand clause.” If a woman sleeps with a man on the first night, usually, she never sees him again, especially if he pushes hard for sex.

For some women, if she has a one night stand, no matter how good the guy was in bed, she feels cheap and has remorse.

She then has to pretend that it didn’t happen by denying it to herself. But that is not possible, so she just denies him. And she believes that he sees her as being cheap.

For other women, whether she specifically set out for a one night fling or not, if she meets a man, she finds attractive, and he pushes hard for the first night close, she just may take him up on it, for the fling of it. She knows that she throws aside any hope of a relationship with him.

In other words, she makes the conscious decision to reduce her respect for him. He is not good enough for a relationship, he is only good enough for a one night stand.

There are exceptions, but as a general rule, if you want to see her again, stay out of the one-night stand category.

Ok, so things you SHOULD do in order to set the stage for a relationship, as opposed to a one night stand.

Don’t be pushy or needy. Listen. Convey that you are interested. And above all else, demonstrate a STRONG LEAD as you set a powerful foundation for a wildly sexual relationship.

And you must be deliberately doing this as you go.

This is exactly what you will learn in “Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms.” It’s so much more than orgasms.

It will show you exactly how to set the relationships up correctly from the start. No guesswork, only proven principles that deliver.

Click here to learn more… Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms

Are You a Nice Guy? Then you Need THIS

He was a “nice guy”… he respected and cherished women. And if he ever got a girlfriend, he knew he would treat her like a queen…

But girls couldn’t see that about him… and every girl he met always passed him up for the “bad boy” who would only cheat on her, hurt her, or even abuse her…

I don’t know what it is, but women nowadays don’t seem to appreciate what’s right in front of them!

They say they want a good man… but then they refuse to even give the good men a chance!

Instead, they keep you locked up inside their friend zone…

It’s not right, and it’s not fair… but there IS something you can do about it.

Here’s what you can do to DEMOLISH her friend zone and get inside her tight little end zone:

Click here to learn how to … Cure Nice Guy

See, the “friend zone” happens because you haven’t triggered her sexual imagination (yet).

A girl needs to think of you sexually and imagine you banging in her MIND first… then she’ll wanna do it for real.

But did you know…

There’s actually a way to FORCE those thoughts into her head and make her fantasize about you…

…even if she says you’re not her type and she doesn’t see you that way.

So she will soon become dripping wet and desperate to have you…

Click here to learn how to … Bring Out Her Inner Slut

She can’t control this, and she won’t even know it’s happening.

She’ll just suddenly feel that… finally… YOU are the “good guy” she’s been waiting for all along…

Kinda like in those romantic movies girls love and get off to all the time…

And don’t worry, you don’t have to put it all on the line or try anything risky.

All you need to do is repeat a few innocent words and phrases…

Phrases designed by scientists to make a flood of sexual hormones come inside her mind…

And make her desperately horny for YOU.

Go here now to learn how to Bring Out Her Inner Slut, or stay locked up in friend zone hell forever.

Women can smell “needy” (by David Shade)

Whenever a Nice Guy writes to me about his tales of woe, it always comes down to some way that he’s acting like a needy bitch and turning her off.

And that’s because he has crappy self-esteem and disempowering beliefs about women and sexuality.

Fixing this is the first thing a man must do when beginning his journey.

Let me share with you part of a letter from Tom, and then I’ll tell you exactly what’s hanging him up:

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“I do everything to be around girls all the time. I’m still not getting dates and getting sex. Not only do I have problems meeting girls, but also, I have problems getting friends and a social circle.

I don’t feel good around groups of people. I find them boring. I’d rather be alone or with one or two other friends. I wasn’t socialized properly as a child.

It’s my 30th birthday in a couple of days, and I’m worried if I don’t get laid soon, nothing will happen, and I’ll lose my motivation and faith.”

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Tom has a scorching case of Nice Guy. He does everything he can to be around women all the time and isn’t escalating or creating attraction.

I only gave you guys a part of the letter, but the whole thing is about how he’ll never get laid, and he’s losing hope.

It’s a very sad attitude, and that’s what’s killing him.

Look, women can smell you’re needy and don’t have it together.

It’s like invisible chick repellant.

I learned very early on that in order to have incredible sex and incredible relationships with women; you have to BELIEVE YOU DESERVE IT.

If you don’t believe it, it’s never going to happen. With crappy beliefs, you will find ways to SABOTAGE a good thing if it comes your way.

…And how you do anything is how you do everything. If Tom takes an inventory of himself and improves his self-esteem and gets the proper beliefs about women and sexuality, a funny thing will happen…

EVERYTHING will improve – relationships, connection with women, and responsiveness in the bedroom.

In Tom’s case, I got him started on Cure Nice Guy

That is the most fundamental product as it takes a man through the process of correcting his beliefs and turning his self-esteem around, to take charge and start to be the man.

Click here to learn more… Cure Nice Guy

Say THIS if she calls you a player…

Today we have question from the mailbag… I think you’ll find this super helpful.

“…

I’m really starting to get this stuff, but now I’m facing new problem…

I’m afraid women will now see me as a player.

Is there anything wrong with this?

How do you deal with it?”

– Tim

>>> MY ANSWER:

Logic, my friend.

Here’s how the conversation SHOULD go down…

Her: You are such a player.
You: And your point would be?

Her: Well, I want a man to pay attention to me, only. Why are you that way?
You: Would you agree that it’s hard to find somebody to click with?

Her: Yes
You: Would you also agree that you have to date a few different people to increase the chances of meeting someone great?

Her: Yes
You: So, are you saying that I should sit on my couch, watching T.V. every night, while waiting for the right woman to walk through my living room?

Her: No
You: Exactly. Any more questions?

Try it and let me know what happens 😉

Ok, so you might be reading this right now, and you’re probably wondering…

“What’s The Best Way For Me to REALLY Learn This Stuff?”

Hey, I’m glad you asked.

Success with women really comes down to learning a new way to think about women, then combining it with the actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION.

If you’re ready for SUPER success with women, then I highly recommend that you go download online ebook “Attract Hotter Women.“

It’s JAM PACKED with ideas that you can learn and use starting TONIGHT. You can go download it right now and be reading it within just a few minutes.

Download it here:

http://www.attracthotterwomen.com/letter

…to get it.

This material isn’t taught anywhere else.

It’s the best investment you can make in your dating life, period… end of story.

Bottom line: Go get your copy.

And I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

ttys

P.S. If you want more “come backs” to beat all of her tests, be sure to study the book:
Click here to learn more…
No More Shit Tests

Stop Sucking At Life; Stop Sucking With Girls!

WARNING: Some HARD TRUTH below…

One of the things I’m sure I’ve joked about on here many times is the idea that some people suck at life.

These people are generally unhealthy (overweight, out of shape, acne, unibrows and bad grooming) anti-social (either through shyness or weird antisocial behavior like nerd arrogance) and unsuccessful (in their career, their goals, financially etc…)

These also happen to be the majority of guys who complain that girls are mean, pickup is hard etc..

The reason it’s hard is because you suck.

The reason no girls like you, is because you suck.

The reason why you get blown out when (if) you approach is because you suck.

You cannot become more successful with women when the rest of your life is a complete and utter mess.

And I know there are some losers reading this who are going to write a comment about how their friend who is broke and fat and whatever gets all kinds of chicks.

Well guess what they are the exception not the rule.

The reason you are so excited to see the one guy who is a loser and gets chicks while ignoring the thousands of guys who have their shit together and get women, is because you are the rule not the exception.

So if you want to get better with women, take a real hard look at where you are in your life and work on fixing that first.

Then maybe the tactics and techniques will work for you and you’ll stop complaining like a whiny little bitch.

Click here to learn more

This Is The Ultimate Attraction Switch

I’m going to put on my best Morpheus voice…

What if I told you there was a way you could get women insanely into you, whilst also screwing up 90% of “game”?

Sounds good right? Well that’s what this email is all about.

As some of you guys know, there are four characteristics of Natural Attraction.

For the sake of review the 4 characteristics are:

– Being Interesting
– Being Masculine
– Being Fun
– Being Confident

Today I want to zoom in specifically on the idea of being FUN.

I have often said that fun is the “ultimate attraction switch”. And for good reason…

I remember the first time I realized this, I was in Central Park with a former student. He had approached a group of girls and was in my opinion at the time doing EVERYTHING wrong.

He was demonstrating low value, being needy, etc…

But the girls kept talking to him and continued wanting to hang out…

Why was this?

The answer was: They were having fun!

The reason fun is the “ultimate attraction switch”, is that it overrides everything else.

If talking to you is the most fun option for the girl, she’s going to keep doing it, even if it means ignoring her friends, the dance floor, etc…

Fun is fully definable.

Fun is a surplus of positive emotions. The more good emotions you make a woman feel, the more fun you are. Simple as that.

But this doesn’t mean you start acting like a “performing clown.”

(That’s what most guys do, and it doesn’t work. You just come off like your begging for laughs).

Here’s what you want to do:

Humor is one of the best tools for conveying fun. Whether or not you want to believe it, I have NEVER met a guy who was great with women who wasn’t at least a little bit funny.

If you want to get better results with women, you HAVE to be able to make them laugh consistently.

If you need help with this, you can take Improv classes, watch more stand-up comedy or just try to make more jokes in day to day life.

Like it not, this is a skill that can be practiced. So start PRACTICING.

Another major tenet of fun is the idea of self-amusement.

Self-amusement is the ability to genuinely feel amused by what you’re doing, the jokes you’re telling, and the situations you’re in.

Get rejected? You see the funny side. Say a cocky line? It makes you grin.

This isn’t something you want to fake. It’s something you want to stem from a genuine enjoyment in your own life.

I simply cannot overestimate how much having fun helps with picking up girls!

Lots of guys get way too obsessed with demonstrating value and neglect making sure that they’re interactions with women are fun first for them and then for the woman they are speaking to!

Click here to learn more

5 Dating Excuses You Can NEVER Use Again

While helping to coach men in the seduction field, I’ve come across TONS of excuses as to why they can’t get laid. Things like:

“I’m so short, you can see my feet on my driver’s license.”
“I’m so broke, burglars break into my house and leave me money.”
“I’m so fat, I sat on an iPhone and turned it into an iPad.”
“I’m so old, my memory is in black and white.”
“My dong is so small, it looks like it belongs on an action figure.”

Well you could suffer from ALL of those things. But once you use these seduction techniques, you’ll NEVER use those excuses again.

Why?

Because it’s going to teach you the language of LUST.

In other words, you’ll learn how to TALK your way into woman’s pants. Even if she initially sees you as physically, financially, or sexually repulsive…

Start talking your way in between women’s legs today!

Click here to Bring Out Her Inner Slut