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How To Warm Up A Cold Woman

I was talking to a good friend of mine recently, and we were talking about starting conversations with women wherever you happen to be…

We were talking about that moment when you first start using Cocky Comedy with a woman who’s acting all “cold” toward you, and she suddenly says “You’re kind of full of yourself… what makes you think you’re all that?” as if she’s put off by your attitude. And my friend says:

“Yeah, You Totally OWN A Woman At That Point.”

Now, what did he mean? How is it possible that if you’ve apparently acted too cocky… and turned a “cold” woman off… that you could own her?

Well, it’s true.

Sometimes you’ll meet a girl… she’ll be acting all “cold” like this and you’ll bust her balls and tease her so much that she starts to get agitated… and all of a sudden she snaps into a mode of: “I don’t know what it is that makes you think you’re god’s gift… but I need to make out with you to find out!”

Now, “warming up” a woman like this is more advanced stuff. You need to have a good feel for chemistry and sexual tension before you really try these types of moves with women you don’t know. But there’s a very interesting lesson here…

A Woman Doesn’t Have To LIKE You To Feel ATTRACTION For You
The attraction happens on its own… regardless of other things happening at the same time.

It’s a proven FACT: certain traits and communication techniques TRIGGER ATTRACTION… and if you know what they are (and how to amplify them)… then you can create results that will literally seem like magic to others watching.

Where to meet women?

Try an art history class.
Go to a classy food fair or restaurant opening.
Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing aerobics class.
Dance classes are also a big winner.
In other words, there are some great places you can go to meet women… and have fun… and become a more interesting, classy guy. Who’d-a-thunk-it?

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Never Debate in the Bedroom

The bedroom is not the place for debate or argument.

You will never win an argument in the bedroom. That will quickly cause her to lose respect for you.

As men, we are leading the interaction with a woman right from the beginning. We are dominant and set the tone and take the lead right from the first meeting.

We escalate on dates and on the phone.

We tell her what we would do if we were there with her right now.

We use dirty talk. We simply tell how much we desire her and what we would like to do to her.

And then we lead her into the bedroom.

We could experience pushback at any point, but it’s especially tricky when we experience pushback in the bedroom.

She might argue with the direction you give, or she might simply say no.

If something appears to be turning in the direction of a debate, instantly stop activity and lean back. You are no longer leading.

Change your position so you two can talk, and simply ask her what’s going on.

Let her speak her mind. Listen carefully.

Then acknowledge her and repeat it back to her to make sure you understand what she said. This is going to give you important information about her.

At this point, you are probably going to have to drastically change your plan. This is when a Plan B would be very good to have.

When you begin activity again, you are going to have to start all over with the steps.

But that’s okay. Keep your cool and just focus on your number one job: being the leader and taking responsibility for her sexuality.

Also, remember you’re not out to get sex. Your intention is to oblige her need for great sex.

This changes everything. It makes you outcome independent and non-needy.

When she picks up on this, she will be able to trust you.

Turn Her On And Get Her Out With Just 3 Simple Texts

You’re about to learn three simple text messages that transform your phone into a magnet.

It works like clockwork…

RINSE… WASH… REPEAT…

On any girl you meet….

So You’ll Never Struggle With What To Write To A Girl Again….

Critical Point #1:

Emotions = Attention

Any time you create an emotional state in a woman… you momentarily have her attention.

And the Window opens back up…

It gets even better…

Emotions also act as an “Attraction Anchor”

And re-ignite the “original” attraction she felt… (even if it has already started to slip away…)

You ever have a song start playing on the radio and bring back a flood of emotions… and suddenly that song has every ounce of your attention?

Now If you’ve sent her an “emotional text”… then any time she pulls out her phone you can get the SAME EXACT REACTION…

When a woman decides that she wants to meet up for a date, text you naked pictures of herself, or just come over for some fun, casual sex….

I can pretty much guarantee it was not some “logical” decision she made based on careful thinking…

She needs to receive three specific text messages…

Its Called:
“The Key Lock Sequence”

1.
First, you send her an “emotional” text that stops her dead in her tracks and captures her attention and as her anticipating what comes next…

This text shows her that you’re different and exciting, and gets her seeing you as an attractive, fun, charismatic guy, and draws out her FLIRATIOUS SIDE setting the tone for all your future interactions…

2.
Next, you need to bond with her in a way that has her imagining spending time with you in the future… And feeling an “emotional connection” that goes beyond a “casual” flirtation…

This text shows her that she’s NOT just some random number in your phone… it lets her know that you “get her” and has her associating these warm good feelings to you…

3.
And finally, you plant the idea of sleeping with you in her mind, so that she begins to crave and imagine it…

This text shows her that you’re the type of guy who makes it happen… has her desperate to spend time with you… And easily transitions to a meet up.

Why Some Guys Have Women Wrapped Around Their Fingers…

Yep. The reason some guys are able to pull out their cell phones and have girls practically jumping at the chance to come over for some late night fun… (Even when months have gone by without seeing her…)

While the rest of us can’t break through her “Defensive Shield”, and even when she responds to our messages she gives us nothing to work with and seems to be politely blowing us off…

Its because these guys have figured out it is not your ability to spend days texting her interesting things or convincing her you’re a good guy who really likes her…

It’s your ability to monopolize her attention, anchor a strong “emotional connection”, and send out texts that act like magnets drawing her closer toward you…

And because time is always a factor, you must do all of this in just three texts…

See like most guys, I used to make the mistake of thinking the more texts I send… the more of her attention I’ll get…

Hoping to stay on her mind I’d continually texts her things like:

Never Send These Texts

“how’s you day going”
“What u up 2?”
“Hope you got home safe”
“hey”

Not one of these texts creates any sort of emotion… In fact, these texts annoy the shit of out her…

Gripping her attention is not about sending her a lot of texts…. And its not about following stupid rules…

It’s about sending her the
RIGHT TEXTS

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Nice Guys Finish Last? Not Anymore…

He was a “nice guy”… he respected and cherished women. And if he ever got a girlfriend, he knew he would treat her like a queen…

But girls couldn’t see that about him… and every girl he met always passed him up for the “bad boy” who would only cheat on her, hurt her, or even abuse her…

I don’t know what it is, but women nowadays don’t seem to appreciate what’s right in front of them!

They say they want a good man… but then they refuse to even give the good men a chance!

Instead, they keep you locked up inside their friend zone…

It’s not right, and it’s not fair… but there IS something you can do about it.

Here’s what you can do to DEMOLISH her friend zone and get inside her tight little end zone:

Friend Zone –> End Zone

See, the “friend zone” happens because you haven’t triggered her sexual imagination (yet).

A girl needs to think of you sexually and imagine you banging in her MIND first… then she’ll wanna do it for real.

But did you know…

There’s actually a way to FORCE those thoughts into her head and make her fantasize about you…

… even if she says you’re not her type and she doesn’t see you that way.

So she will soon become dripping wet and desperate to have you…

She can’t control this, and she won’t even know it’s happening.

She’ll just suddenly feel that… finally… YOU are the “good guy” she’s been waiting for all along…

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A Mistake That Turns Women Off Instantly

I’d like to tell you a story. It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar…

Once There Was A Man Who Was VERY Attracted To A Great Woman…
At first, she was just another attractive woman… but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her… and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem…

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.

Why? Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes, she would say things like, “You are so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her… and once, she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

What’s WRONG With This Picture?
You see, she just wasn’t acting like a woman that was falling in love. She was acting like (cue the tragic music… ) just a friend.

And then the insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing things up” by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that, if she only knew how he FELT, she would feel the same way. So, he made a bold move:

He told her how he felt and confessed that he was in love and that he would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said, “Thank you… I really mean that… but I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re too important to me….”

All Of This Only Confused The Man More
He didn’t know how to take it… Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something? Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long term relationship? Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough? Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like this anymore… he had to be with her. He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her… so, he took a big step…

He bought her a symbolic gift and wrote her a long, long letter… again confessing his feelings.

And then, the unthinkable happened..

She Didn’t Reply At All!
He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up… but he never got a call back.

Over the following months the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.

THE END

Now, wasn’t that a sweet story? Heartwarming, huh? I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writing romance novels… Now, let’s talk about this story.

This Story Is An Actual, Real-Life LEGEND
I’m not talking about a myth or a work of fiction here… I’m talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless and incredibly familiar. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate and sound so familiar for most men?

It’s because we’ve all been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many of us have been there often in our lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of…

Stories and situations like this one really fascinate me. They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity to understand and solve the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution. And it lies in understanding one thing:

The Huge Secret That Women Know (But 99% Of Men Don’t)
This secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn’t attracted to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her backfire.

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Words No Woman Can Resist

Have you ever made the mistake of trying to impress a woman with material things?

For instance, you may have bought a really expensive shirt for a date. Or you went as far as buying a luxury car you couldn’t afford simply to catch a woman’s attention.

Well instead of making those expensive mistakes that do NOT truly impress women, you should do this:

Speak your mind.

Speaking your mind works at wooing women because:

It’s genuine
It comes off naturally
It will make her feel good

When you speak your mind, you release any built-up fear that’s created with trying to say all the right things to impress her.

This in itself is liberating. And she’ll see it as confidence, which is a trait that makes all women WET.

As for examples of the style in which you can speak your mind:

“I love how your skin tastes.”
“Come closer so I can squeeze you.”
“Walk in front of me so I can watch your hips move.”

Those may seem a tad corny. But they have 3 characteristics that work at turning women on:

They’re unique
They’re daring and a bit brash
They involve sexual innuendo

Don’t try coming up with lines of your own after you close this message. Do so in the moment when you’re with her and get the urge to say something genuine.

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Ways of Escalating like A Master

The Five Areas of ESCALATION.

Previously I had thought there were only THREE general areas you needed to escalate in.

They were:

1. Verbally.

You have to escalate the conversation to something SEXUAL. The quicker you can do this, the better your game works.

Unfortunately this is the hardest area to teach, as you can MAJORLY creep girls out with bad verbal sexual escalation.

The use of “releases” after sexually advancing statements helps a lot, but it’s still going to be learning by trial and error.

2. Physically.

This one should be the most obvious, but also takes some practice.

It seems like the more educated a guy is the more problems he tends to have with touching.

The key with touching is to come off as a “touchy” person.

If you start touching early on (think on the opener) then group or girl will have to accept that you’re just “touchy”.

This is much easier to accept than a guy not touching AT ALL and then starting to touch her more 15-20 minutes in.

3. Logistically.

Escalating logistically is one of the most overlooked and important ways we can escalate.

Whether you’re escalating logistically by setting up a date in the future, or by seeding a pull that evening. No matter what you need to try to move every girl to the next set of locations.

Ultimately ending up at somewhere SHE can comfortably have sex with you.

What I realized was that there are TWO MORE areas that are not talked about that you have to move forward on.

They are:

1. Compliance.

If you are not actively increasing the girl’s INVESTMENT in you, you are shooting yourself in the foot.

“Cognitive dissonance” is one of the most reliable phenomena in human psychology. The more a girl invests, be it time, effort, financial etc… the more likely she is to feel that she likes you.

In my case I talked the girl into letting me in the club, asked for drink tickets, then later asked her to hook me up with vip, got her to get me a pen so I could get another girl’s number and then I asked her for a ride home at the end of the night.

With that much compliance it wasn’t surprising she was posing naked on my balcony within 10 mins of coming in. Get girls to DO THINGS FOR YOU, even if they are trivial.

2. Frames.

There are different frames in Attraction, Comfort and Seduction.

While there is no static ” Attraction Phase” you will need to progressively move away from attraction frames.

Attraction frames are very playful.

They are usually “challenging” to the woman as well. (This one is HUGE is texting). Comfort frames are more cooperative and lead to an “Us” dynamic.

Seduction frames are all about roles and arousal.

You want to make sure that you are setting frames that are moving you forward as opposed to staying in frames that don’t give you CONTEXT for escalation.

Hope that helps everyone who has problems with escalation which can be a huge sticking point for most guys.

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Qualities your woman must possess

Everything you need to completely fulfill a woman is already within her, but a woman can only be as fulfilled as she believes she deserves to be.

Thus she must have a good sense of deservedness. And a good sense of deservedness comes with high self-esteem.

Additionally, the more intelligent a woman is, the more the mental aspects of female sexuality can be leveraged. Sexuality for women is entirely mental, so the more intelligent she is, the more powerfully it will apply.

Intelligence is to possess sound knowledge, the mental ability to learn, to conceptualize (make an internal model of a concept and be consciously aware of it), and to reason (compare and contrast, logic, analysis, and synthesis).

If you find a woman with good self-esteem, there is a good chance she is intelligent.

But the reverse is not necessarily true. There are many highly intelligent women who have very low self-esteem.

The more intelligent she is, the more you can leverage and benefit from the mental aspects of female sexuality. The more intelligent she is, the less your looks and the size of your tool will matter.

What will matter to her, and what she will respond to, are things such as who you are as a man, your intellect, and what you will learn as a Masterful-Lover.

If you find a woman who has high self-esteem and is intelligent, there is an extremely good chance that she is sexual.

But some women are more sexual than others. How sexual do you want to be?

“Sexual” means that sexuality flows through her veins, she is more interested in sexual concepts, she is more interested in sex, and she is more sexually responsive.

Sexual does not mean promiscuous. A sexual, intelligent woman with a high self-esteem can go for long periods without sex between relationships; she’ll just fantasize and masturbate while continuing to look for a good man. In fact, promiscuous is often an indication of low self-esteem.

Sexual is somewhat associated with high sex drive. Just because sexuality is an important thing to her, it does not mean she is always horny.

Additionally, there are plenty of horny women who are not “sexual” (they just want to fuck and get off).

Sexual is more of a cerebral thing, whereas high sex drive has a component that is determined by hormones.

A sexual woman will value sex, will derive greater fulfillment from it, will require that it is good, and will think about it often.

A horny unintelligent woman with low self-esteem will only value a man for his looks and his tool (and maybe his money, etc.) and will only be with him for validation.

A sexual woman will bring you a life of happiness and expansion.

A horny unintelligent woman will bring you nothing but chaos.

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The 8 most important things to know about women

I like to think about the overall frames of each phase of an interaction, because it gives some “basic goals” for the communication we’re trying to have with the girl.

So with that said, let’s look at the “5 Frames of Comfort.”

1. Cooperative.

Comfort is FIRST and foremost cooperative. Remember by this point, there is an obvious attraction between you and the girl. She’s also “worked” a little bit for your attention through the proper use of qualification.

By now it’s time for both of you guys to be working towards the overall goal of hooking up.

2. Emotional.

Comfort is all about sharing emotions and experiences. Now is the time to be really aware of what I like to call the emotional temperature of the situation.

Is the situation HOT and passionate? Is it sweet and loving? Is it FLAT?

You have to know what emotions the girl is having in comfort in order to gauge what emotions she needs to feel in order to move forward.

=>You’re probably missing more sexual signals from her than you think…

3. Sexual.

It’s important to demonstrate sexual interest in comfort.

In fact, I even like to alternate every “qualifying” compliment with a sexualized one. You need to show her you’re interested in her as a MAN is interested in a woman.

Not like a shopping buddy or someone who’s going to tag along as you go to a club.

4. Time Distorting.

In comfort we want to make a woman feel like she has known us forever.

The more we can do things like using multiple venues, “childhood regressions” etc… The more a woman will feel like she’s known us long enough to hook up with us.

5. Connection based.

Now when I say the words connection based, a lot of guys ASSUME I mean talking about some sort of intense emotional connection between the two of you based on “destiny.”

A connection simply means there is an overall relationship between a series of events. This means a connection is simply the theme that holds your comfort together.

The connection could be adventure based, sexual, emotional or any other number of things.

Now let’s examine the “3 Frames of Seduction.”

1. Teasing.

This is huge.

“Sexual push/pull” is one of the biggest secrets in the seduction universe. You want to AROUSE and DENY consistently until the girl is so turned on she actually does the escalation herself.

2. Sexual Rapport.

The frame of sexual rapport refers to treating the girl as a lover before she actually has become one. This is HUGE! You can assume sexual rapport at a verbal, physical and social level.

3. Controlled Passion.

The best way I’ve ever thought of seduction is as a controlled passion.

You need to convey that you are “struggling” to remain in control of yourself because of her. But you are still ALWAYS in control, which allows her to tempt you. Women LOVE playing the temptress.

Ok I hope that clears everything up for you guys.

P.S. Comfort and seduction can seem complicated, but a lot of it boils down to reading the situation and reading her.

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