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Fitting a square peg in a round hole!

One of the significant flaws in a Nice Guy’s mental make-up is codependence. They feel they need a woman to love them to feel complete and happy.

It’s in all the great love songs on the radio. It permeates everything.

The irony here is that it’s ultimately disempowering. That NEED makes a Nice Guy act in a way that is a total turnoff to a woman. It gets him the exact opposite result of what he wants.

Often it has guys trying to “fix” situations that aren’t worth fixing.

The one I’m about to share with you came from a reader, Barry, who is in his eighties.

I want you to read his question and before you read my response, think about what advice YOU would give him.

Here’s Barry:

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I’m attempting to romance an 80-year-old woman who is entirely ill-suited to the notion of becoming a pleasing lover.

However, we are great friends and truly love one another.

She regards our intimacy as a burden she bears willingly because she loves me.

I have read Ian Kerner’s, “She Comes First” and done everything he suggests.

She doesn’t find oral sex any more pleasing than intercourse.

I’ve also read “Passionate Marriage” and “Love Sex Again.” Nothing has helped.

Do you have any suggestions beyond the obvious, that I should move on to someone else?”
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My thoughts for Barry:

First off, good for you having and desiring regular sex at 80 plus years of age! You’re already a champion in my book.

Now on to your questions –

Why would you keep trying to please a woman who clearly has no interest in having sex with you?

Enjoy your friendship, appreciate her, but move on to someone else romantically.

You are trying too hard to fit a square peg into a round hole, and that’s precisely what Nice Guys do because they live in lack and think they’ll never have sex again.

And forget the oral sex book of the week on Amazon; you need “Give Women Wild Screaming Orgasms.”

And it’s about a lot more than orgasms. It about how to talk dirty, how to set the tone, and take the lead to create a wildly sexual relationship. It gives you all the components you need to build it right from the beginning, so you never end up with a woman who loves you but bears the burden of intimacy – I mean what the hell is that?

When you get to the main program, you’ll never have to wonder how to proceed again.

The 5 Secrets of State (feeling your MOJO)!

How to Control Your “State of Mind” Around Women…
No, this isn’t an email about the CIA…

Today I’m going to talk to you briefly about one of the most important factors in determining your success with women on ANY particular night.

I’m talking about your “state of mind.”

State as it’s often called refers to your overall feeling of happiness.

Are you in a fun, positive, indifferent, social mood?

Or are you in a judgmental, timid, shy, mood?

If you’ve ever had a really “on” night, you were “in state.”

State is characterized by the following:

Indifference to others opinions. Increased social freedom. Loss of Time Sense. Relaxed Body Language and more…

Sounds pretty good right?

So how can we maintain develop and maintain a positive emotional state?

1. Get daily exercise.

Nothing helps your state more than getting daily exercise.

The release of endorphins alone can BOOST your state as well as lower your blood pressure and anxiety. You don’t have to hit the weights like a Guido getting ready for Winter Music Festival but 15-30 minutes of moderate exercise daily is a must.

2. Warm up socially.

When it comes to state, you don’t need to go from shy and down to Mr Outgoing right away.

Instead you want to merely get over the “indifference threshold.” You simply want to not care what people’s reactions to you are. I like to warm up by complimenting three different people. I like to compliment guys and girls and then just walk away.

3. Attract social feedback.

This is what I like to call priming the PUMP.

In game you are going to become the focal point of SOCIAL FEEDBACK. By that I mean we will have people reacting to us socially.

Sometimes positively, sometimes negatively but you will be exposed to social feedback. So you want to get exposed as early as possible.

I like to sing or dance around or make up elaborate games to play with friends. As long as people are looking at you it’s a good thing. You just may not want to do this in the venue you’ll be approaching in 🙂

4. Always look your best.

This one is a no brainer, but guys really screw up here. Make sure that every time you leave the house you are ready to approach. You don’t want to give yourself an extra excuse like “I don’t have gel in my hair.” Or “I’m wearing shorts.”

5. Surrender to the moment.

Don’t try to force yourself in state ever. That’s a huge mistake. Whenever you’re feeling shy, or uncomfortable ACCEPT those feelings.

Always remember that feelings are fleeting and just because you feel down at 10:01 doesn’t mean you’ll still be there at 10:10.

We’ll talk more about getting into state in future but try out these 3 tactics tonight and let me know how they worked for you.

P.S. One of the easiest ways you can have a permanently high level of state is by not putting so much pressure on yourself.

Understanding how female sexuality works, and building confidence in your ability to seduce them is the single best way to turn that pressure off.

These are some of the best techniques for learning how… Click here to learn more

How to develop an “Attractive Voice”

Today we’re talking about Vocal Projection.

Y’know, Pavarotti style.

It has been said many times that your voice is your NUMBER ONE tool to attract women.

But the number one problem guys have is not being loud enough.

We’re going to fix that today.

The power for your voice comes from your breath.

This is the number one thing to remember when it comes to vocal projection. You want to speak on the exhale.

With this in mind, it’s a good idea to take a deep breath before doing an approach.

Make sure that you’re speaking from your diaphragm not your throat. Your diaphragmatic muscles are located near where your ribs come together.

If you exhale all the breath out until your body forces you to breathe, your diaphragm will contract.

Here are some other tips:

1) In general, aim your voice one person beyond the person you want to hear you!

2) For night-game, speak as loudly as possible. You have to make it socially awkward for the girl(s) to ignore you.

3) Don’t be afraid to scream if the music is too loud in a bar or club. Your voice is a muscle, it will come back stronger every time you lose it.

4) Speak louder to ignore conversational threads you don’t want to take. (Practice this with anyone.)

5) Lower your vocal projection once you’ve isolated a girl away from her friends. This creates intimacy.

6) For day-time approaches, speak in a normal tone, as if you’re reading the news. This will help the girls not get startled.

7) Remember you can have the best game in the world, but it doesn’t matter if no one can hear it.

Click here to learn more Be The Fucking Man!

So, seriously, how many men have you been with?

That is a question none of you should ever ask a woman.

If your woman gets the sense that you’re weak and insecure and jealous, it’s going to be lights out for your relationship.

I read an article in The Washington Post a while back titled, “My Boyfriend Was Intimidated By My Sexual History. So I Dumped Him.”

The author (a woman, obviously) got right to the point!

In the article, her boyfriend asked her how many people she had slept with.

…And not just how many people but details about things she had done.

After he badgered her for a while, she told him. He got angry and jealous.

Then when she turned it around and asked him, he “didn’t remember.”

…What a double standard.

After feeling judged and small for a few months, she dumped the idiot.

The author made it clear that, with his insecurity, he couldn’t provide her with the level of security and trust that she craved.

Only a strong man, who is secure in himself can provide her with that.

Words to the wise:

1. Never ask your woman how many people she has slept with.

It doesn’t matter.

She’s with you now and wants to continue to be with you.

2. Never tell her how many people you have slept with.

It doesn’t matter.

It is only a losing game to share the number of past lovers.

3. You need to believe that you are the best thing that has ever happened to her.

You must make sure you are the best lover she has ever had.

And this is precisely the way she wants it.

PS. – Are you the best lover she’s ever had?

If not, well…

The ultimate in confidence and dominance is super advanced program, “Be The Fucking Man.”

You may want to study every page and apply it. Do that, and it won’t matter that she’s ever been with another man before. After you get ahold of her, you will be the ONLY one.

Then you can join the ranks of the world’s best lovers and know what it feels like to have your woman virtually worshiping the ground you walk on and craving to be near you.

Click here to get it Be The Fucking Man!

What women love to do!

I don’t know if you’ve noticed this. But the next time you see a bunch of women in a group, you’ll probably notice that they all love one thing:

To TALK.

Now you may hate talking. In fact, you may be the silent type. If this is true, here’s a tip:

CHANGE THAT!

Because if you don’t talk, women will NOT open their legs for you.

What’s the most common type of talk between a man and woman?

SMALL talk.

Small talk is when a conversation arises instantly. And it’s a must when talking to women on the street, on a date, or anywhere for the rest of your life.

Here are 5 reasons why small talk is essential:

1. It breaks the ice – You can use it to approach anyone and introduce yourself without seeming awkward.

2. It breaks down her defenses – You can use it to slowly show you’re not a threat and a “normal” guy.

3. It takes charge – When you initiate small talk with a stranger, it shows you can take initiative as a man and are confident.

4. It shows you can think on your feet – You don’t need a set-up conversation to speak to her. You can make one arise out of the ashes.

5. It shows you’re not boring – A bored woman will walk away. And a guy who cannot talk will bore her to death.

I could give you even more reasons why small talk is essential when seducing women. But that won’t teach you HOW to make small talk…

This eBook, on the other hand, WILL. And it’ll teach you how to make small talk SEXY so she’ll want to be more than “just friends”…

Small Talk Tactics: Making Small Talk Sexy

Who does a goddess fall in love with?

Imagine a woman who is so sexy that she turns every head when you walk in the room with her…

Imagine a woman so beautiful, and with such presence that everyone flirts, doors open for her, and she never hears the word “no.”

She’s a goddess. Men would do anything to be with her. So would women.

She has the world at her feet.

What kind of man is man enough to be with her?

What kind of man could satisfy her and provide the dominance for her to feel safe enough to let her guard down and be feminine?

I think you already know the answer…

Only a Competent Lover could do that!

Forget what you may think, these are some of the most intelligent savvy and sexual women in the world…

…and they can smell bullshit a mile away.

If you have a weakness or if you are in any way disingenuine – she’ll know.

You CAN ABSOLUTELY BECOME THIS COMPETENT DOMINANT MAN!

Click here to learn how

The places you go to meet women!

Let’s jump straight in…

You want to have a variety of places you go to where you can either meet or bring women you’re interested in.

Generally you should have at least 3 different places that you can meet women.

It’s good to meet girls at bars, coffee shops, and at the gym.

You can also bring dates to all 3 of these places to socially proof myself with the people that work there.

This brings us to the SECOND point of places you go.

Social proof and “high status treatment.”

You might go 3 different bars within 5 blocks of your apartment where your could skip lines, and get free drinks.

This happens because you go to these bars multiple times a week for a variety of different reasons.

On the weekends, you would go there to pick up girls, on weekdays you would go there with girls you are seeing or on dates…

Sometimes you can just go there to eat some appetizers and chat with the staff.

The point is you want to be seen A LOT.

One mistake guys make when they are trying to network or get “hooked up” is they ask for names too early. You don’t want to look like you’re desperately trying to make friends with the bartender as that can be transparent.

Also make sure to tip well early on. You don’t have to keep tipping that well but you should always leave more than 15% for bartenders.

Another thing you can do to stand out is order the same drink every time. Don’t do anything cheesy like ask for the “usual”. But if you do this right, the bartenders should ask you if you want your drink a few weeks in.

You also want to make sure that you bring girls around these places AS MUCH as possible. As silly as it sounds word does get around bars and regulars do exist.

The more people are talking about how you’re always in there with different girls, the easier it will be to get special treatment and sleep with members of the bar staff…

Lastly you want to make sure that you befriend the “regulars.”

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Seducing women and making friends actually has the EXACT same skill in common.
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People you are going to see OVER and OVER again. You want to make the best possible impression with these people. The more they like you, the more they will help you in a variety of ways.

The FIRST way regulars can help you is by providing you with a “home base.” When you’re out alone, or with a date, you can always stop by and chat with some of the regulars.

It helps you with “social proof” on dates, and helps get you warmed up and talkative when you are out alone.

The SECOND way that getting to know regulars helps you is through make shift social circles.

Regulars often have friends who come out every once in awhile, oftentimes these friends are attractive women from out of town looking to party that night.

An introduction goes a long way in that situation.

You can reap similar benefits in coffee shops, yoga classes, and gyms as well.

So bear all of this in mind as you go about your life.

Talk to ya soon,

P.S. You’ll get great results if you build a thriving network of social connections and venues like this. It takes work, but it’s worth it.

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The Easiest “Shortcut” To Getting Her in Bed!

There is the Law of Psychology called “Effort Justification.”

It says: whenever you put effort into something, you automatically want it more.

This applies to dating, money, success… anything.

So you can sit back and relax while she automatically becomes more and more attracted to you…

All the way to the point where she’d be dragging your lazy ass straight into her bedroom!

Check out this video here where he explains how to do it:

For example…

Have you ever known a girl who’s boyfriend treated her like crap, but she still wouldn’t leave him?

The more effort she puts into that guy, the more she feels she HAS to stay with him… even if he’s a total douchebag!

And she will justify it to herself by saying “it’s meant to be,” or believing she can “fix” the guy.

That’s the law of “Effort Justification” at work.

Here’s what this means for you.

If you want a woman to sleep with you… date you… and maybe even fall head over heels in love with you…

You have to make her put in EFFORT to win you over.

Chasing her by texting her all the time… buying drinks and dinners…
showering her with compliments… will only make her keep running away from you

If you are putting in all this WORK to try and “demonstrate your value” to women then
you need to rethink your behavior.

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The process of becoming “confident”!

I was reading about a principle in Neuro-Linguistic Programming called “The 4 Levels Of Learning”. These four levels are the steps that a person takes to become a master at anything.

As I was reading, I almost had to laugh because it exactly maps the process I went through in becoming better with women and sexuality.

Just as accurately, it reflects the journey that all of you will follow as you learn our group’s material, apply it to your own experience and ultimately make it your own.

Let me walk you through these four steps and apply them to my own journey. My guess is you’ll have a few lights bulbs go off as you relate these to your own experiences:

1.) The first step – Unconscious Incompetence.

This is where you don’t know what you don’t know.

I didn’t know why I got dumped. I was perplexed and frustrated. It sucks at this stage.

2.) Conscious Incompetence

At this stage, you KNOW how much you don’t know and how incompetent you are.

After my divorce, I sought to find out what happened. I sought the truth in reality.

I realized what I was doing wrong. I learned that I had been a victim of social programming.

I learned I was a “nice guy.” I learned that I wasn’t being “dominant.”

And I realized how far I still had to go.

3.) Conscious Competence

This is the part where you actually become competent to do a thing. But you have to focus and consciously do it. You have to walk yourself through the steps. It’s not quite an automatic at this point.

I learned what women really wanted. I learned what the bad boys were doing that was so powerful. I learned how not to be a “nice guy.”

I learned what to do right and started doing those things. I learned how to talk dirty. I learned how to lead and take the initiative.

I felt like I was being “cocky.” I was surprised that it worked so well. But I still had to continually focus on making sure that I was getting it right.

With practice and successes, I felt more comfortable with it. I felt “confidence.”

4.) Unconscious Competence

This is where the magic happens. This is where you can competently do a thing without ever having to think about it.

This is when it becomes “Knowingness.” It is who you are.

At the advanced level of being competent, it’s like you do everything right, you do everything on autopilot, and you just simply know you are doing the right things to get the result.

…Without ever having to think about it.

It’s like you are a magician. You touch her mind and body as no one else can, and she wonders what is it about you anyway?

This is the wonderful place to get to. This is the condition that has to exist for all of those wonderful stories you hear to happen.

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How to handle girls who are flaky!

Rule 1: There’s always going to be some flaking with people. Not just women. People in general. This doesn’t have ANYTHING to do with you.

They might be lazy, something better came along, something important came up, or they just forgot.

In the case of my girl, her cat might have died, she might have moved to Gibraltar, or her phone might have been destroyed… or she might’ve just plain NOT been that interested.

Not the best, but it’ll happen. Nothing you or I or anyone can do about it. Move on.

But here’s what you CAN do:

Rule 2: Qualify hard and soon!

QUALIFYING is how you gauge a woman’s level of interest in you. The more skilled you get, the more you’ll be able to do much of this based on her “non-verbal communication.” But you’ll also always need to qualify.

Because if you don’t, you’ll end up with a flake.

Qualifying is basically any action or statement that demonstrates you want to sleep with her that night and that you view her as a sexual partner.

Girls that aren’t interested won’t go along with this. They’ll shoot you down or become visibly uncomfortable.

Usually do this by saying something like “I’m totally gonna try and get in your pants all night.”

(Feel free to steal that).

Whether or not this would have worked isn’t relevant. What’s relevant is that it sets the precedent for the interaction, and also gets her mind working on where the night is GOING.

If she stays with me, on some level she’s telling herself she’s down for it, so when her friend arrives, she’s already made her decision.

This is why you want to qualify. Make your intentions known. Be playful. Set the precedent.

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