Category: Relationships

When A Woman Blows You Off And “Flakes”!

Whose Problem Is It When A Woman Blows You Off And “Flakes”?
Well, that all depends on your perspective. When a woman flakes out on me, I see it as a huge mistake that SHE made. So, if/when I see her again, I shake my head in disappointment and say, “Well, you sure missed out on a good time.”

And then, regardless of what she says (unless her mom died or she lost a leg in a car accident), I just give her the “You’re a flaky woman with no integrity” disappointed look and walk away.

Again I ask you: whose problem is it? Do you really want to go out with a woman who is flaky? I say… don’t let it bother you and move on.

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3 Major Problems Men Have TALKING To Girls

It’s funny that guys spend SO MUCH time agonising over how to solve these different problems in their game that they don’t actually focus on one of the most important ones:

Conversation.

Because let’s face it – you’re gonna be spending most of your time picking up women … TALKING to them!

Hours, and hours of taking.

(It’ll be fun don’t worry…)

So if you’re struggling with girls, odds are that your problem lies in BASIC conversation skills .

There are 3 major problems that every guy seems to have when it comes to speaking to women.

We’re going to address these today. And I’ll throw in some simple tips.

1) They can’t seem to start a conversation at all

The biggest one guys struggle with.

They can’t figure out what to say. They can’t figure out how to break that distance between them and the girl. They don’t know what the right “opener” is.

The good news is that what you say to start the conversation doesn’t matter that much.

This stems from trying to find the “perfect line”, which kinda comes from watching too many bad movies.

The reality is that there is no perfect line, and even if there was, it wouldn’t work 90% of the time.

So forget about that and just say something.

2) They run out of things to say

Guys think they’re doing well in a conversation but then they go blank. They can’t think of anything and they panic.

I used to call this “hitting the wall.”

You have to able to keep the conversation going in order to move it forward.

Here’s a tip: read a lot of books, have a lot going on in your life. It’ll make this a lot easier.

3) They “weird the girl out”

Guys hate to admit this, but it’s actually pretty common.

They’re too needy, too anxious, taking things too seriously, and it makes her feel uncomfortable.

You need to chill out, and pay attention to her level of comfort.

One thing that is going to help you here is not pursuing women too hard. Ultimately she makes the final choice, and she’ll make it the more she INVESTS IN YOU.

You aren’t going to get her to do that if you do all the chasing.

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Masterful-Lover man-whores (by David Shade)

I should do an article full of all the quotes from women who have written in asking where they can meet a Masterful-Lover.

There is so much longing and hope in women when they see that there are real Masterful-Lovers out there.

If you knew how much, you would have every single one of my products and study them religiously.

And you would KNOW that as a trained Masterful-Lover, you are one of the most valuable commodities out there.

Let me share with you the latest desperate plea that a woman sent me and then I’ll address a couple of her points.

This is from Ananya:

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“You are so on target about what women want in a man.

Please don’t write-off women with low self-esteem. Girls are not born with low self-esteem.

They are created by media hyper beauty standards, disappointment, rejection & betrayal from un-masterful lovers and inexperience due to societal double-standards.

Your program is for ANY MAN. Why can’t any woman have a Masterful-Lover? Don’t we all deserve it?

Also, would you consider a Masterful-Lover dating site? We want to shop for a few good men as well.

Thank you for all you’ve done to help make the pursuit of happiness a bit easier & certainly more fun!”

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Comments for Ananya:

Yes, you are undoubtedly correct about the media contorting women’s body image issues and messing with women’s self-esteem.

Although it’s equally valid that society and media brainwashing teaches men to be Nice Guys and lose the respect of their wives and girlfriends.

So what do we as men do?

We fix it! We get the correct knowledge and beliefs (That’s where yours truly comes in), and then we take action on it.

We create ourselves anew.

My work has always been predicated on getting the man’s act together – It’s up to us to lead, and make things happen.

And for the woman to feel the amazing feelings she wants to feel, she must FOLLOW that lead.

A woman like Ananya simply needs a guy like YOU.

…So what can we do for women like her who get it, and love our work, but can’t find a masterful-lover of their own?

Maybe we could have a Masterful-Lover registry. Like a website with pictures and profiles and the women could apply to be paired with ones they like…

…Kind of like an escort service.

Every guy on the registry would be certified!

…Which would make you guys man-whores!

Get to work on yourself! Become the man you could be.

Be The Fucking Man!
Bring Out Her Inner Slut!

The Strange Text That Makes A Man Shake With Obsession!

For example… things like curiosity, cliffhangers, and incomplete information are tools that make a man crave to know more…

These are the same triggers Hollywood screenwriters use to draw an audience into their movies and force them to pay attention for hours at a time.

These psychological triggers, which I call ATTENTION HOOKS are extremely powerful… Because they tap directly into the focus system of a man’s brain…

And force him to wonder about you… to think about you… and to pay attention to you… whether you’re right in front of him… or you’re miles away.

You Can Use These Hooks to Capture A Man’s Attention

And force him to pay his full attention to you… Which in turn creates desperate feelings of love, infatuation, and obsession for you.

All of a sudden, he won’t be able to control his sudden urge to fantasize about you all day long. And he’ll find his own reasons to see you, hold you, and kiss you like you’ve never been kissed before.

This creates a “positive feedback loop” that causes his mind to constantly wonder about what you think of him, when you’ll respond to him, and when he’ll get to see you next….

This, ladies, is what you call genuine “OBSESSION!”
And as soon as you understand these three simple facts and use simple text message system, don’t be surprised if handsome men begin calling you, texting you, and asking you out on more dates…

Don’t be shocked if your ex comes crawling over fiery coals just to have another chance with you…

And don’t be amazed when the man you’re currently with — despite his coldness, indifference, and stubborn unwillingness to commit — calls you out of the blue, tells you how much he loves you, and showers you with the kind of affection that you might’ve thought was just Hollywood fiction.

What makes women sexual

A woman’s sexuality has been a mystery to many a befuddled and sexually frustrated husband.

They think their wives are insane. Or at the very least, impossible to understand.

Neither is true. Usually.

Females have the biological imperative to reproduce.

Natural selection has weeded out the ones who are not driven to have sex. Women have the chemistry to be sexual, in fact, horny.

The female orgasm serves two purposes:

First, since it feels so good, she will want to do it often. Secondly, it serves to create muscle contractions that pull the sperm into the uterus.

Men also have the biological imperative to reproduce. We are all very familiar with that. Men are also subconsciously driven to please women because it gives our sperm a better chance of making it to the egg.

So, it is completely understandable that we want our woman to have an orgasm.

From a DNA perspective, it’s all about getting that sperm to the egg.

But here’s the thing:

If a woman’s subconscious objects to having an orgasm, for whatever reason, it will not happen.

Therefore, you must appeal to her mental sexuality.

While women have the chemistry to be sexual, it has absolutely no effect if the mental is not there.

That is a defense against being impregnated by a lesser man.

Often as a marriage deteriorates and the trust and connection with it, a woman’s subconscious becomes repulsed by the husband, and the sex dries up.

Often that is cited as the reason for the divorce.

The many women I spoke with, were recently divorced:

In almost every case, she had become bored with her husband. Basically, she lost respect for him.

The interesting thing is, she was no longer excited about sex. She may have even stopped having orgasms. She no longer could get aroused. She could not even get excited through fantasies. She didn’t even masturbate anymore.

Her subconscious was shutting down her sexuality.

She would actually become convinced that there was something wrong with her.

Then, she would get divorced. After some time, she would start dating again and go through a string of dorks and jerks.

Then… she would meet an exciting man, a man who stimulates her mind, who leads her, who brings out in her that sexual creature that yearns to live. She becomes highly sexual and can’t get it enough.

The cycle begins again.

This illustrates how female sexuality is all mental.

The chemical reactions simply follow the mental.

Bring Out Her Inner Slut!

Forget your failures and focus on THIS…

2 Ways to Positively Deal with Rejection (When You Are Learning Game)…

I had a very weird weekend…

I just wasn’t really feeling going out but somehow ended up doing it anyway.

Some nights you get “rewarded” for this.

This weekend was NOT one of those times, and it got me thinking.

Ironically enough about how to think to keep yourself SANE as you are getting better with women.

As I went through my journey in through the community, I accidentally went down a lot of WRONG roads in terms of the way I thought.

So I’ll be trying to help you guys avoid these pitfalls that a lot of guys fall into.

Today I want to talk about something I realized this weekend; the importance of having “a short memory.”

One thing I constantly drill into myself is the idea that past results are no indicator of future success.

As a result you want to spend as LITTLE time as possible thinking about your past failures.

Especially when you’re out in the “field”. When you’re out meeting women, it’s really important that you maintain your state at all costs.

So when an approach goes badly you need to be able to forget it as soon as it happens.

Here’s a few ways that my friends and I will deal with rejections.

1. Laugh about them and BLOW them out of proportion with your friends.

Instead of saying the girls were uninterested and never hooked, I’ll say they were “Fembot lesbians of death.”

2. Blaming the girls.

I got this one from one of my natural roommates in college. Anytime a girl would reject him, he would just say she was a bitch. And that would be it.

So now when I get blown out, I’ll often think to myself, “Wow a lot of lesbians out tonight.”, or “Man all these girls are weird.” You don’t actually say it to the girls, but to yourself or your friends as a joke.

Then immediately forget the approach and go do another one. The field is not a place to analyze yourself. It’s a place to take action.

The flip side of this is that you do want to dwell on your successes. When you have an “on” night or get a great reaction you want to remember that and use it as motivation to do future approaches.

I personally like to think about other successes I’ve done right before I go into an approach.

You also want to make sure that you take responsibility for your success and don’t downplay them, by saying it wasn’t you the girl was just looking to get laid etc…

If you can keep yourself from dwelling on the bad approaches in the past and VISUALIZING failure you’ll be halfway home. If you can find confidence from your successes you’ll be all the way there.

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What Your Ex Is Doing Right NOW

Since you’re reading this, I’m going to assume 3 things:

You’re lonely and feeling down and depressed
You’re wondering what your ex is doing right now
You want your ex back so you can kill your loneliness and kill all the mystery
Well you know how they say the truth hurts? This is going to hurt a little…

Here’s what your ex is probably doing right now as you read each and every word of this message….

She’s thinking of her new man. Thinking of how he gives her all those butterflies in her stomach that make her excited to wake up every morning…

She’s wondering about how to keep his attention. Maybe she’ll do it by sending some naughty pics of her “assets”…

She’s wondering what she’ll wear to their date tonight. And whether or not she’ll wear panties underneath…

She’s wondering how to seduce him further. Should she wear sexy lingerie after the date while they Netflix and chill? Will she go full-naughty and wear those crotchless panties she just bought?…

She’s fantasizing about how it will feel to have him inside her. And how good it will feel to wake up by his side…

Most of all, she’s fantasizing about their future together. And how he’ll be able to fulfill her needs like YOU never could.

Of course, she could be doing none of the above…

Why?

Because she could be in bed with him right now. And she could be so “busy,” she won’t have time to think.

Now I’m sure reading this has ticked you off to no end. But before you spy on her social media to see who her new man is, do this instead:

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How ugly guys sleep with girls way “out of their league”

Here’s a shocking fact:

Did you know that a woman can be 100% attracted to you, but NEVER want to sleep with you?

And yet…

A woman can be totally UN-attracted to you…

And still get physical with you immediately!

If you’ve ever seen a girl hook up with some douchebag she didn’t even like, and then complain about it afterwards… then you know this is true.

Why Girls Bang JERKS (the truth you were never told)?

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A Dom always protects his woman

A Dom is first and foremost a protector of his woman. She must feel safe and protected by you for her to be able to open up and be wildly sexual.

You protect her from both outside forces like weirdo guys and from having a jealous or untrustworthy boyfriend.

That means you also protect her from your own BS!

Let me use an example that many of you and I have experienced:

Other men approaching your woman in a bar or a nightclub.

At some point, you are going to have to visit the Men’s room. This is where it gets interesting.

Simply say, “Okay, Baby, I gotta visit the Men’s room. I’ll be right back.” Don’t make a big deal out of it. She’s a big girl and can handle being alone as she waits for you. Then leave for the Men’s room. Make your visit as quick as possible.

Understand this: She will be a woman standing alone at the bar.

It’s like raw meat for the hungry circling sharks. There is an extremely high probability that some guy will approach her and start talking to her. How you handle, this is very important.

When you return from the Men’s room, and some guy is talking to your woman, you don’t know who he is. Chances are he is simply some guy trying to pick her up.

But he could be her boss or some guy who works for her. Or he could be an ax murderer. You simply don’t know.

When you return to her, face her, put your arm around her waist, say, “Hi Baby” and pick up your drink and take a sip. It’s as if you are ignoring the guy.

You have made it clear that this is your woman, without confronting him. Chances are the guy will simply walk away.

Do NOT ask her about it. Do NOT make a big deal out of it. Simply return to regular conversation. If she wants, she will tell you about what the guy said, and she probably will, but do NOT ask her about it.

It’s as if it’s no big deal to you. It’s as if it happens all the time because she is so attractive to men. Remember, it was not her fault that some guy approached.

Be protective, not possessive. And do it without challenging anybody.

Are you starting to get the Dom vibe yet?

If it is some guy she knows, she will introduce you to him. In this case, shake his hand and support your woman in her life and her friends.

If it is a persistent predator that continues bullying his way in, do NOT challenge the guy. Simply say to your woman, “I have something to show you” and take her hand and lead her away from the situation. When you have taken her to a neutral location, say to her, “I was concerned about that guy, so I took you away from that situation.” She will then fill you in on what the predator said.

Again, protect her, do not be possessive. And do NOT in any way blame her for what happened.

Never condemn your woman for talking to some guy who was trying to pick her up. Maybe your woman just didn’t want to be rude trying to get him to buzz off. We all know that some men can be persistent. Just leave it be.

Now she feels safe. You have her covered, and you have your own shit together.

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“I love you because I need you.” vs. “I need you because I love you.”

A Nice Guy is not genuine.

He is available to all and emotionally vulnerable to all, while the real man shares those things only with his special woman.

Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.”

We have said a number of times that one of the qualities a woman needs in her man is “emotional availability.” But what is really meant by this? It’s worth exploring because this is one of those points where a guy can get his wires crossed and start thinking that women actually want Nice Guy behavior.

It’s not that simple.

“Those who cannot acknowledge their vulnerability – who are afraid to rely on someone else – cannot truly become one with their partner…” writes Rabbi Boteach in “Kosher Sex;” “Loneliness comes about not when there is no one around whom you need, but rather when there is no one around who needs you. The misery of having no one around who requires your love is far greater than having no one to give you love” (pg. 198).

The difference between the immature, needy Nice Guy and the mature loving man is when, with whom, and how genuinely a guy lets down his guard. Make no mistake, we are indeed talking about showing weakness, about being vulnerable…

…But the needy Nice Guy shares his weaknesses with everyone: he tears up in a crowded movie theater on a first date, will speak openly with near strangers about how painful or how frightening an experience was, will tell any of his female friends who will listen how lonely he feels without a woman in his life.

He will tell his girlfriend about the stressful situation at work and how he fears losing his job – then call up his sister and have the identical conversation with her.

The Nice Guy thinks that his greatest virtue is his ability to be indiscriminate – he is open and available to all.

Of course, the Nice Guy’s sharing isn’t really all that genuine, because rather than being revelatory it is actually designed to cover up some other aspect of himself.

Okay, maybe he really is that shallow that this man, by contrast, is the real him coming through. But more likely he is prattling on about that operation he had or how mean everyone was to him at football camp ten years ago because the thing that is actually on his mind, that
consumes his thoughts, is how much he wants to fuck that pretty blonde girl over there – and he figures he better keep talking to cover up his thoughts!

When a squishy parts woman meets a Nice Guy and hears his song-and-dance, she immediately knows instinctively that he is either A) hopelessly substance-less and weak or B) highly duplicitous.

You would be correct if you guessed that women are not interested in courting either of those traits.

Even most low self-esteem women will avoid anyone with this behavior pattern like the plague, which is part of why even though they are no better people at heart, Bad Boys have so much more luck with women.

He would rather drop dead than be thought of as “needy.” Every time a Nice Guy meets a new woman he searches her face, wondering, “Will you be the one who is willing to try to rescue me?”

Every time the mature loving man meets a new woman (assuming he is not already in a relationship), he searches her face wondering, “Will you be the one who is capable of understanding me? (and thereby save me).” He doesn’t reveal much if any, of his vulnerable self to his acquaintances. And he waits to reveal any of it to his lover until he is certain that she is something special.

That is the guy that we want to be.

And that is the man that women are searching for.

Make yourself to be such man!

Cure Nice Guy