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“I love you because I need you.” vs. “I need you because I love you.”

A Nice Guy is not genuine.

He is available to all and emotionally vulnerable to all, while the real man shares those things only with his special woman.

Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.”

We have said a number of times that one of the qualities a woman needs in her man is “emotional availability.” But what is really meant by this? It’s worth exploring because this is one of those points where a guy can get his wires crossed and start thinking that women actually want Nice Guy behavior.

It’s not that simple.

“Those who cannot acknowledge their vulnerability – who are afraid to rely on someone else – cannot truly become one with their partner…” writes Rabbi Boteach in “Kosher Sex;” “Loneliness comes about not when there is no one around whom you need, but rather when there is no one around who needs you. The misery of having no one around who requires your love is far greater than having no one to give you love” (pg. 198).

The difference between the immature, needy Nice Guy and the mature loving man is when, with whom, and how genuinely a guy lets down his guard. Make no mistake, we are indeed talking about showing weakness, about being vulnerable…

…But the needy Nice Guy shares his weaknesses with everyone: he tears up in a crowded movie theater on a first date, will speak openly with near strangers about how painful or how frightening an experience was, will tell any of his female friends who will listen how lonely he feels without a woman in his life.

He will tell his girlfriend about the stressful situation at work and how he fears losing his job – then call up his sister and have the identical conversation with her.

The Nice Guy thinks that his greatest virtue is his ability to be indiscriminate – he is open and available to all.

Of course, the Nice Guy’s sharing isn’t really all that genuine, because rather than being revelatory it is actually designed to cover up some other aspect of himself.

Okay, maybe he really is that shallow that this man, by contrast, is the real him coming through. But more likely he is prattling on about that operation he had or how mean everyone was to him at football camp ten years ago because the thing that is actually on his mind, that
consumes his thoughts, is how much he wants to fuck that pretty blonde girl over there – and he figures he better keep talking to cover up his thoughts!

When a squishy parts woman meets a Nice Guy and hears his song-and-dance, she immediately knows instinctively that he is either A) hopelessly substance-less and weak or B) highly duplicitous.

You would be correct if you guessed that women are not interested in courting either of those traits.

Even most low self-esteem women will avoid anyone with this behavior pattern like the plague, which is part of why even though they are no better people at heart, Bad Boys have so much more luck with women.

He would rather drop dead than be thought of as “needy.” Every time a Nice Guy meets a new woman he searches her face, wondering, “Will you be the one who is willing to try to rescue me?”

Every time the mature loving man meets a new woman (assuming he is not already in a relationship), he searches her face wondering, “Will you be the one who is capable of understanding me? (and thereby save me).” He doesn’t reveal much if any, of his vulnerable self to his acquaintances. And he waits to reveal any of it to his lover until he is certain that she is something special.

That is the guy that we want to be.

And that is the man that women are searching for.

Make yourself to be such man!

Cure Nice Guy

New Conversation Skills To Attract Women 2

Lets say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?” She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.” Key Words: Old Navy.

“Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?”

“My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…”

I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the conversation repeating there words you’re using as Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re listening, even though you’re turning things around to be c/f in this situation.

It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you’re readers.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman, I’m not just listening for any key word… I’m listening for a particular kind of key word (or words). I’m always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few particular ways…

…preferably in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

Let’s Dial Things Up To SPARK MAXIMUM ATTRACTION
Here’s what I’m talking about…

She says “No, I bought this from the Old Navy store…” Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying “Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it to the next step and actually make fun of her…

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago… in the Old Navy?”

Now you’re busting on her as well, and it’s funny.

She says “No silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall.” You might try “What kind of mall are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places.

She says “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” You could go with “Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along very well.”

Are you with me here?

What I’m doing is not only looking for key words to latch onto, but I’m also looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of racy topics.

There is a bazillion more examples of how to do it here, so check them out…

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In the meantime, here’s what I’m saying:

Use “Key Words” In A FUNNY Way, And It Works Like MAGIC
Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub. He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile, when she said “Well, I’m getting tired. I think it’s time for me to go home.”

The guy answered “Go home?! I just met you. I’m not going home with you!” She said “No, I mean I’m going home. I’m tired.” He shot back “Maybe you don’t hear me. I’m not going home with you, so don’t even ask anymore.”

She said “No, that’s not what I’m saying…” He replied “And besides, I’m sure my place is nicer than yours… so if anything, you’re coming home with me.”

This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it… she went home with him.

If you like these and want more tips on meeting women and fun conversation starters you’d love this book…

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Why do I say women have an inner slut?

“Bring Out Her Inner Slut” is one of the most taboo and powerful products.

It was initially going to be called “How to Have an Exciting Successful Relationship,” because, in the end, that’s really what it achieves.

Calling it “How to Make Your Woman Wildly Crazy About You,” would work too because that’s precisely what’s going to happen when you do all the things instructed you to do.

But “Bring Out Her Inner Slut” is a catchy title that speaks to all of us as men, and really is the heart of the matter.

It is what has to happen in order for the rest to be good.

Every man’s dream is a good girl in the living room, slut in the bedroom.

In order to have that you must first have respect, and then genuine desire.

By bringing out her inner slut, you are going to make her wildly crazy about you, and you are going to enjoy an exciting, successful relationship.

You are the Candyman. You are a magician who can bring her desires to life.

That is very powerful and something no other man can do.

There is no endeavor more satisfying than taking a proper, respectful woman and turning her into a wild, screaming, sex-crazed slut (in the bedroom that is).

By slut, I do not mean a promiscuous woman. In fact, by doing all of the things in the book, your woman would not risk losing what she has with you.

When a woman has become wildly crazy about her man, no other man compares.

That is the magic sweet spot that we all want to get to in our relationships.

In “Bring Out Her Inner Slut,” a slut is a woman who is sexually uninhibited, animalistic, raw, ruthlessly expressive, and engages in taboo sexual activity with her man in the context of a successful, secure relationship.

Context is key!

Think about it this way…

“Slut” is a harsh word. No woman wants to be a “slut,” but the following statement is true:

A woman has powerfully gratifying experiences being “slutty” with her man in the right context.

It is a celebration of her sexuality in the rawest sense.

Most women don’t “want” to be slutty, meaning they don’t sit around wishing and hoping that they were sluts. But the following point is key:

After a woman has been led by her man, in the correct context, to have ruthlessly expressed her sexuality and engaged in taboo sexual activity, she is elated and highly gratified.

In other words, she looks back and fondly reflects on having been “slutty,” and she looks forward to doing it more.

That’s how you get a woman excited about being sexual – and wanting to do it again and again, and again.

If you are ready for the power that comes with being the most potent lover a woman has ever had, you need to read more about “Bring Out Her Inner Slut.”

You can do that here.

Bring Out Her Inner Slut

The only “type” of guy women make a move on first

When women see you for the first time, they instantly categorize you and decide which type you are.

And once you get “typed”, that’s it – she’s not gonna change her mind about you, it’s locked in.

Here are the types:

– The “nice guy” she will talk to for a few minutes and then move on

– The “warm up guy” – her first conversation of the night – good for free drinks and compliments to warm her up for the next guy

– The douchebag type of guy she will reject (unless she gets super drunk, then she might sleep with him and regret it)

– The creepy type of guy she stays far, far away from

– The “prize” type of guy that she will approach (even if she’s nervous or she thinks girls are not supposed to approach guys first)

Obviously, you want to be the “prize” type of guy, and this book will show you how:

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The ManHood
In the nightlife scene, there’s typically 5 “types” of guys.

When women see you for the first time, they instantly categorize you and decide which type you are.

And once you get “typed”, that’s it – she’s not gonna change her mind about you, it’s locked in.

Here are the types:

– The “nice guy” she will talk to for a few minutes and then move on

– The “warm up guy” – her first conversation of the night – good for free drinks and compliments to warm her up for the next guy

– The douchebag type of guy she will reject (unless she gets super drunk, then she might sleep with him and regret it)

– The creepy type of guy she stays far, far away from

– The “prize” type of guy that she will approach (even if she’s nervous or she thinks girls are not supposed to approach guys first)

Obviously, you want to be the “prize” type of guy, and this book will show you how:

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A covert method for amplifying female desire

Fractionation is a covert hypnotic method for amplifying a woman’s desire.

Would you like a taste of how it works and how things play out?

OK, let’s say you’re on a date and you’ve been escalating and talking dirty. The discussion has been getting increasing sexual and exciting.

You will get her to the point, say by the time you’re dancing in a crowded nightclub together, that she is totally engrossed in how she is excited for you. Probably to the point that she’s not distracted by all the noise and commotion around you.

This is actually a form of hypnotic trance.

Now you cannot get away with this for very long. Eventually, something will interrupt you two, such as someone bumping into her, which will pop her out of trance.

You want to be the one who ends the sexual discussion and brings her out of trance. You are the one who is leading, and you always take the environment into consideration in your work.

Now you fractionate by changing the subject.

Fractionation is a hypnosis term meaning that when you have her in trance, you occasionally take her out such that when you put her back in trance, she will tend to go in even deeper and more quickly.

Change the subject by turning slightly towards the bar and saying, “Baby, I love when we are together. How are we doing on drinks here? How is your drink?” This rewards her for following your lead and then does the fractionation.

She will notice that she has been talking very sexual with you inside the crowded nightclub. She will compose herself and maybe take a deep breath.

At this point, she may slap your chest and say with a big smile, “You’re bad!” Simply slightly smile back and return your thoughts to your drinks.

Just slightly smile and say something like, “Yeah but you love it.”

If she insists by continuing with, “You’re a bad boy, you know that, right?” Look her directly in the eyes and say, “Baby, you make me so excited for you that I am taken away by my desire for you.” This is one of the few things that you put the responsibility on her for. You blame her for making you so desirous of her.

This is a good thing. Women love it when their man is turned on by her. Women love it when their man desires her so badly.

This is not the time to leave to go home. No, certainly not. You are in no hurry. She is only getting warmed up. She still wants to enjoy the experience being with you at the club, and she still wants more mental foreplay.

And every time you fractionate and come back, she’s at a higher level of arousal.

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How To Warm Up A Cold Woman

I was talking to a good friend of mine recently, and we were talking about starting conversations with women wherever you happen to be…

We were talking about that moment when you first start using Cocky Comedy with a woman who’s acting all “cold” toward you, and she suddenly says “You’re kind of full of yourself… what makes you think you’re all that?” as if she’s put off by your attitude. And my friend says:

“Yeah, You Totally OWN A Woman At That Point.”

Now, what did he mean? How is it possible that if you’ve apparently acted too cocky… and turned a “cold” woman off… that you could own her?

Well, it’s true.

Sometimes you’ll meet a girl… she’ll be acting all “cold” like this and you’ll bust her balls and tease her so much that she starts to get agitated… and all of a sudden she snaps into a mode of: “I don’t know what it is that makes you think you’re god’s gift… but I need to make out with you to find out!”

Now, “warming up” a woman like this is more advanced stuff. You need to have a good feel for chemistry and sexual tension before you really try these types of moves with women you don’t know. But there’s a very interesting lesson here…

A Woman Doesn’t Have To LIKE You To Feel ATTRACTION For You
The attraction happens on its own… regardless of other things happening at the same time.

It’s a proven FACT: certain traits and communication techniques TRIGGER ATTRACTION… and if you know what they are (and how to amplify them)… then you can create results that will literally seem like magic to others watching.

Where to meet women?

Try an art history class.
Go to a classy food fair or restaurant opening.
Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing aerobics class.
Dance classes are also a big winner.
In other words, there are some great places you can go to meet women… and have fun… and become a more interesting, classy guy. Who’d-a-thunk-it?

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Never Debate in the Bedroom

The bedroom is not the place for debate or argument.

You will never win an argument in the bedroom. That will quickly cause her to lose respect for you.

As men, we are leading the interaction with a woman right from the beginning. We are dominant and set the tone and take the lead right from the first meeting.

We escalate on dates and on the phone.

We tell her what we would do if we were there with her right now.

We use dirty talk. We simply tell how much we desire her and what we would like to do to her.

And then we lead her into the bedroom.

We could experience pushback at any point, but it’s especially tricky when we experience pushback in the bedroom.

She might argue with the direction you give, or she might simply say no.

If something appears to be turning in the direction of a debate, instantly stop activity and lean back. You are no longer leading.

Change your position so you two can talk, and simply ask her what’s going on.

Let her speak her mind. Listen carefully.

Then acknowledge her and repeat it back to her to make sure you understand what she said. This is going to give you important information about her.

At this point, you are probably going to have to drastically change your plan. This is when a Plan B would be very good to have.

When you begin activity again, you are going to have to start all over with the steps.

But that’s okay. Keep your cool and just focus on your number one job: being the leader and taking responsibility for her sexuality.

Also, remember you’re not out to get sex. Your intention is to oblige her need for great sex.

This changes everything. It makes you outcome independent and non-needy.

When she picks up on this, she will be able to trust you.

Turn Her On And Get Her Out With Just 3 Simple Texts

You’re about to learn three simple text messages that transform your phone into a magnet.

It works like clockwork…

RINSE… WASH… REPEAT…

On any girl you meet….

So You’ll Never Struggle With What To Write To A Girl Again….

Critical Point #1:

Emotions = Attention

Any time you create an emotional state in a woman… you momentarily have her attention.

And the Window opens back up…

It gets even better…

Emotions also act as an “Attraction Anchor”

And re-ignite the “original” attraction she felt… (even if it has already started to slip away…)

You ever have a song start playing on the radio and bring back a flood of emotions… and suddenly that song has every ounce of your attention?

Now If you’ve sent her an “emotional text”… then any time she pulls out her phone you can get the SAME EXACT REACTION…

When a woman decides that she wants to meet up for a date, text you naked pictures of herself, or just come over for some fun, casual sex….

I can pretty much guarantee it was not some “logical” decision she made based on careful thinking…

She needs to receive three specific text messages…

Its Called:
“The Key Lock Sequence”

1.
First, you send her an “emotional” text that stops her dead in her tracks and captures her attention and as her anticipating what comes next…

This text shows her that you’re different and exciting, and gets her seeing you as an attractive, fun, charismatic guy, and draws out her FLIRATIOUS SIDE setting the tone for all your future interactions…

2.
Next, you need to bond with her in a way that has her imagining spending time with you in the future… And feeling an “emotional connection” that goes beyond a “casual” flirtation…

This text shows her that she’s NOT just some random number in your phone… it lets her know that you “get her” and has her associating these warm good feelings to you…

3.
And finally, you plant the idea of sleeping with you in her mind, so that she begins to crave and imagine it…

This text shows her that you’re the type of guy who makes it happen… has her desperate to spend time with you… And easily transitions to a meet up.

Why Some Guys Have Women Wrapped Around Their Fingers…

Yep. The reason some guys are able to pull out their cell phones and have girls practically jumping at the chance to come over for some late night fun… (Even when months have gone by without seeing her…)

While the rest of us can’t break through her “Defensive Shield”, and even when she responds to our messages she gives us nothing to work with and seems to be politely blowing us off…

Its because these guys have figured out it is not your ability to spend days texting her interesting things or convincing her you’re a good guy who really likes her…

It’s your ability to monopolize her attention, anchor a strong “emotional connection”, and send out texts that act like magnets drawing her closer toward you…

And because time is always a factor, you must do all of this in just three texts…

See like most guys, I used to make the mistake of thinking the more texts I send… the more of her attention I’ll get…

Hoping to stay on her mind I’d continually texts her things like:

Never Send These Texts

“how’s you day going”
“What u up 2?”
“Hope you got home safe”
“hey”

Not one of these texts creates any sort of emotion… In fact, these texts annoy the shit of out her…

Gripping her attention is not about sending her a lot of texts…. And its not about following stupid rules…

It’s about sending her the
RIGHT TEXTS

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Nice Guys Finish Last? Not Anymore…

He was a “nice guy”… he respected and cherished women. And if he ever got a girlfriend, he knew he would treat her like a queen…

But girls couldn’t see that about him… and every girl he met always passed him up for the “bad boy” who would only cheat on her, hurt her, or even abuse her…

I don’t know what it is, but women nowadays don’t seem to appreciate what’s right in front of them!

They say they want a good man… but then they refuse to even give the good men a chance!

Instead, they keep you locked up inside their friend zone…

It’s not right, and it’s not fair… but there IS something you can do about it.

Here’s what you can do to DEMOLISH her friend zone and get inside her tight little end zone:

Friend Zone –> End Zone

See, the “friend zone” happens because you haven’t triggered her sexual imagination (yet).

A girl needs to think of you sexually and imagine you banging in her MIND first… then she’ll wanna do it for real.

But did you know…

There’s actually a way to FORCE those thoughts into her head and make her fantasize about you…

… even if she says you’re not her type and she doesn’t see you that way.

So she will soon become dripping wet and desperate to have you…

She can’t control this, and she won’t even know it’s happening.

She’ll just suddenly feel that… finally… YOU are the “good guy” she’s been waiting for all along…

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A Mistake That Turns Women Off Instantly

I’d like to tell you a story. It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar…

Once There Was A Man Who Was VERY Attracted To A Great Woman…
At first, she was just another attractive woman… but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her… and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem…

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.

Why? Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes, she would say things like, “You are so important to me” and “I’m glad that you’re in my life”… but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her… and once, she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.

What’s WRONG With This Picture?
You see, she just wasn’t acting like a woman that was falling in love. She was acting like (cue the tragic music… ) just a friend.

And then the insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of “screwing things up” by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that, if she only knew how he FELT, she would feel the same way. So, he made a bold move:

He told her how he felt and confessed that he was in love and that he would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said, “Thank you… I really mean that… but I don’t want to mess up our friendship… you’re too important to me….”

All Of This Only Confused The Man More
He didn’t know how to take it… Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something? Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for a long term relationship? Did it mean that she didn’t love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard enough? Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn’t go on like this anymore… he had to be with her. He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her… so, he took a big step…

He bought her a symbolic gift and wrote her a long, long letter… again confessing his feelings.

And then, the unthinkable happened..

She Didn’t Reply At All!
He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up… but he never got a call back.

Over the following months the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.

THE END

Now, wasn’t that a sweet story? Heartwarming, huh? I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writing romance novels… Now, let’s talk about this story.

This Story Is An Actual, Real-Life LEGEND
I’m not talking about a myth or a work of fiction here… I’m talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless and incredibly familiar. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate and sound so familiar for most men?

It’s because we’ve all been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many of us have been there often in our lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of…

Stories and situations like this one really fascinate me. They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity to understand and solve the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution. And it lies in understanding one thing:

The Huge Secret That Women Know (But 99% Of Men Don’t)
This secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn’t attracted to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her backfire.

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